What would you do? Two examples from my weekend:
We were at a 6th birthday party for a friend of my kindergartener on Saturday. It was one of those indoor trampoline places. It was full of kids. My 6 year old and 4 year old boys were having such a great time.
All the little boys and girls were running and bouncing and there was lots of sweating! The music was fun and it was LOUD. And then Katy Perry's "I Kissed A Girl" came on.
It was on for maybe 20 seconds and as I listened, I watched young girls running around, playing, jumping, wondering if they were listening to it, wondering if it mattered. They were young. From 5 to maybe 12 or 13. And this song was BLARING:
"THIS WAS NEVER THE WAY I PLANNED, NOT MY INTENTION I GOT SO BRAVE, DRINK IN HAND, LOST MY DISCRETION IT'S NOT WHAT I'M USED TO, JUST WANNA TRY YOU ON I'M CURIOUS FOR YOU CAUGHT MY ATTENTION.
I KISSED A GIRL AND I LIKED IT, THE TASTE OF HER CHERRY CHAPSTICK I KISSED A GIRL JUST TO TRY IT, I HOPE MY BOYFRIEND DON'T MIND ITIT FELT SO WRONG, IT FELT SO RIGHT, DON'T MEAN I'M IN LOVE TONIGHT.
I KISSED A GIRL AND I LIKED IT, I LIKED IT NO, I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOUR NAME, IT DOESN'T MATTER YOU'RE MY EXPERIMENTAL GAME, JUST HUMAN NATURE IT'S NOT WHAT GOOD GIRLS DO, NOT HOW THEY SHOULD BEHAVE MY HEAD GETS SO CONFUSED, HARD TO OBEY"
It bothered me. I can't explain it, it just bothered me. So I got up, walked to the snack bar where the teenage boys were working, and asked who was in charge of the music. They told me it was on a playlist. I politely told him that I didn't feel like it was the best song choice for an impressionable group of really young kids. And I asked him if he thought it was OK. He said, "Probably not. I can change it". I told him that would be a great idea and thanked him for doing so.
I know I'm not going to win any new friends with that admission, but that was example #1.
Also this weekend, my 4 year old flung our car door open and smacked the pristine black Lexus SUV that was next to us in the Target parking lot. It left a mark. A really big mark. He didn't mean to, of course, but the damage had been done. I whipped out my grocery list, cut off the bottom half, wrote a little note telling the owner what had happened, left my number and tucked it under her windshield wiper.
She called yesterday and we chatted. She was very understanding. I should be hearing from her soon with her estimate and I will pay to fix the damage. But not everyone was behind me on that decision. I caught a little heat by someone who told me accidents like that happen all the time in parking lots and it's really no big deal. For me, it was.
And now….fingers crossed that the estimate is really low!!!!